有没有和外国友人聊天的时候，对方总是很冷漠，气氛迷之尴尬？　有没有想过，或许是你太不会聊天了！今天我们就来盘点下你不该在聊天时候说的6句话吧~

　　Here are 6 things you should never say to someone：

　　以下6句话可千万不要对别人说：

　　1."You're wrong" 你错了

　　What they hear： "You are stupid. You know nothing. You're worthless."

　　别人听到的却是："你好愚蠢。根本就不懂。一点作用也没有。"

　　英语是一种非常婉转且礼貌的语言，即便不同意对方的观点也不能如此直接的表达出来，这种不自觉的不礼貌却会给对方造成非常严重的伤害。

　　Prefer more tactful sentences. "I would have thought that…", "My understanding is that…"

　　更好的一种表达是："我认为..."，"我的理解是..."

　　2."I don't care" 我不在乎

　　What they hear： "Leave me alone. I have better things to do than listen to you."

　　别人听到的却是："别叨扰我。我还有比听你唠叨更重要的事要做。"

　　Explain why you would love to hear about that subject, and why "right now" is not the best time for you. Everybody matters. Not caring about someone is denying their existence ： If people matter for you, you will matter for them.

　　解释一下其实你对这些很感兴趣，只是"此刻"对你来说不合时宜。每个人都很重要。如果不在乎别人就是在否定别人的存在：如果别人在乎你，那你也要在乎别人。

　　3."This should be easy" 这很简单

　　What they hear： "It's easy for most people. If you have trouble doing it, there is probably something wrong about you"

　　别人听到的却是："别人都觉得简单。如果你觉得难，那就是你的问题了"

　　The level of difficulty is perceived differently by everyone, and everyone has their own Everest. If you're telling somebody that their job is easy, then you're undermining their contribution to society and you're telling them they don't deserve the salary they have.

　　每个人对困难的感知都不一样，并且也都有自己的强项。如果你断言他人的工作如何简单，那么你在无形中就低估了别人对社会的贡献，也就表示你觉得别人不值其拥有的回报。

　　If someone is struggling and coming for help, then they have trust you enough to show you their weakness. Don't rub their face in it by saying "This should be easy".

　　如果有人陷入困难向你求助，那是因为他们足够信任你才会在你面前展现脆弱的一面。不要在别人猝不及防的时候说一句"这很简单"。

　　4."I told you so" 我早就告诉过你

　　What they hear： "You did not listen to me. That's all your fault. I'm so much better than you."

　　别人听到的却是："谁让你不听我的。这都怪你。我可比你有先见之明。"

　　It's useless to shoot a dead horse, especially when other person needs your help more than ever. Don't keep tabs on who's right and who's wrong. If it were a competition, the one keeping tabs would be the one losing. Help the other person, and don't add insult to injury.

　　射击一匹死马有何用，尤其是当别人比以往都需要你帮助的时候。不要执迷于谁对谁错。如果这是场比赛，在乎对错的人注定会输。帮助别人，就不要再雪上加霜了。

　　5."As I just said before…" 我之前就说过…

　　What they hear： "You don't listen to me. You're making me repeat myself. You're so annoying"

　　别人听到的是。"你不听我的。老让我重复。真是烦人。"

　　This is a very sneaky conversation killer. If someone asks you a question and you point out that you've already answered it, then you're killing their willingness to learn, or even to have a slight  interest in what you say.

　　这绝对是对话杀手。如果有人问你问题，然后你却说早就回答过了，那么你就是在扼杀别人学习的意愿，甚至是消除对你话语的最后一丝兴趣。

　　6."Good luck" 祝你好运

　　What they hear："There's nothing you can do that will make you succeed. Only luck will. let's hope for a once-in-a-millenium planet-alignment-like opportunity so that you can succeed."

　　别人听到的却是："对于成功你已经无能为力。只能全靠运气了。让我们期待一个大海捞针般的机会，这样你就能成功了。"

　　Don't attribute success to luck; celebrate the other person's qualities instead."Show them your guts!" "Give them something they'll never forget!"

　　不要把成功归功于运气；相反的是要称赞对方的品质。"让他们看看你的厉害！""给他们难忘的一课！"

　　以上这些话就像致命的忍者，会抹杀别人的自信，伤害你的朋友、家人和同事——最糟糕的是可能你根本都没有意识到，希望我们都能被世界温柔以待~